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Relationships Die due to Greed
Originally published at https://tavian.blog
“We get paid for bringing value to the marketplace. It takes time,… but we get paid for the value, not the time.”
- Jim Rohn
Following on from the post not too long ago on instrumental vs intrinsic goods. I thought it would be good to show you how this affects the way we see our romantic and friendly relationships also.
If you have not yet read the post I am referring to, the link is here.
Now we finished on a rather positive note. That our pursuit of success is very much dependent upon how we measure the importance of our goods.
However, we must now look at the very subtle problem of using instrumental goods to place value on our relationships. Divorce rates in the UK are currently around 42% according to recent statistics. We are also seeing the average age of marriage climbing in the UK. For opposite-sex couples, the average age for men was around 37, for women 35.
A huge part of this is our increased pursuit for instrumental goods, rather than focussing on intrinsic values. But this greed for instrumental value has also led to subtle changes in the way we measure value in each other.
